Chances are, if you’re reading this, you’re struggling to come to terms with sexual behaviors that have taken control of your life.
You’ve lost control. Life has become unmanageable. You’ve tried everything: cold turkey, reading books, talking with your spiritual leader, even negative reinforcement like a rubber band to snap around your wrist. But nothing has worked. You’ve done all you can think of and this thing is still haunting you.
You’re not alone. According to the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), nearly 12 million Americans suffer from some type of sexual addiction. And due to the progressive increase in ease of accessibility to sexual material on the internet and television that number is climbing everyday.
Most of the time, we've thought of addiction as being synonymous with chemical dependency. Illegal drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, and prescribed medications are what come to mind when we talk about people who are “addicted.” Sex, like the things listed before, can become addictive because our bodies produce hormones and neurotransmitters during sex that can cause the same chemical “high.”
The problem becomes serious when a person engages in persistent and escalating acts of sexual behavior even though there are increasing negative consequences to them and others. And, like other addictions, the sexual behavior keeps going in spite of the person's sincere efforts to stop. Sometimes it's tough to see the signs of addiction in your own story...