“Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.”
When this journey of recovery, sobriety, and hope began, the addict or non-addict was unable to see that they had lost control over their own life due to sex addiction or porn addiction. They were unable to see that there was more to the world than just getting what they wanted. They were unable to admit that they had been and done wrong. But… they decided to surrender to the process of the Twelve Steps.
There was a personal surrender in Steps One, Two, and Three. There was a moral inventory in Steps Four and Five. There was a surrendering of wrongs in Steps Six and Seven. And there was a righting of wrongs in Steps Eight and Nine. Step Ten is based on all of the work that has come before it and its done on a daily basis out in the real world.
Step Ten is, at its core, being humble enough to admit when you’re wrong.
This Step does two things. First, it serves to prevent conflicts and hurts from becoming so big that amends (Step Eight and Nine type of amends) are needed. How? Because by being humble and admitting you’re wrong, you open the door in the moment for relational restoration. That’s the second thing.
Not speaking your feelings + time = resentment.
And the bigger resentment grows, and more space it creates between people. Step Ten, when worked daily, can short circuit that process and keep relationships in tact!