For so many addicts, the hurt that they have caused others and that they have been unwilling to face acts as fuel for the addiction. They feel great shame and guilt about what they’ve done, so they reach for sex or lust to numb those feelings. For the non-addict, running from past hurts you’ve caused others can be the same. You don’t want to face the shame and guilt, so you cut off or isolate. Step Eight is all about beginning the process of freeing yourself from past mistakes.